5 Steps I Had to Take to Get Back My Girl
When the love of my life walked out the door, all I could think about was, “how do I get my girl back”. She meant everything to me. I don’t know what went wrong, but she was gone and I needed her back. I went crazy trying to figure it out. I wanted to talk to her, but not push her farther away. I wanted to see her, but not make her think I was stalking her.
With help from a friend, I finally understood that I needed to learn a few things before I could even try to get my girl back. Some things were harder than others to do, but I was determined to get her back! Here are a few things that helped me out.
1. The absolute first thing to do is figure out what caused the break up in the first place. Was it something you did? Was it something you didn’t do? I had to go over our relationship to see if I had done something to drive her away. Was I not meeting her needs in some way? I know that girls don’t just break up with you for no reason, so I had to find out what the reason was for her leaving. Was it something that could have been prevented? Was it something that we can fix, now that I know the problem?
2. If the break up was your fault, you’ve got to admit it. The fastest way to get your girl back is to let her know that you recognize that it was your fault. Let her know that you are sorry for your actions and the consequences of them. Be sincere, you don’t want to make things worse. Believe me, this step really made a difference with my girl.
3. You should still hang out with friends, no need to be a hermit. In fact, it can make her a little bit jealous to see you out having fun without her. You’ll appear more fun-loving and attractive to her. This can work to your advantage if you really want to get her back. Talk with other girls, but I’d be cautious about dating anyone else at this particular point, especially if another girl is the cause of your break up.
4. The best way to eventually get her back is to show her that you have moved on. She needs to know that you still have feelings for her and that you care about her, but you are not spending your days wallowing in self pity because she’s gone. She may find this attractive and mature, making you more appealing to her.
5. Building trust is a huge step to bringing you closer together. Work at becoming friends with her again. My girl is now my best friend. She likes doing things with me, things I like doing. I found out that she wouldn’t do certain things with me because she didn’t know how. If she wanted to learn, I taught her. Now she really enjoys some of my favorite things.
When things are back to where you can talk without fighting, casually ask her what she thinks caused the break up in the first place. She may say that breaking up was for the best, or she may say that it was a huge mistake. Either way you’ll have a better idea of where you stand. You’ll know whether you really do need to move on without her or whether you can move on with getting her back.
These 5 steps are just the beginning. They really helped me to get back my girl, but they weren’t all I did. As always, there’s more to the story. My friend created a really cool step by step plan called “The Magic of Making Up”. He talks about things I didn’t think of and walks you through the simple steps to get your girl back. The name is perfect too, because it did work like magic for me to get back my girl.
